“Today is your birthday. Make yourself presentable to
Dadi (grandmom) and other elders. Seek their blessings for your bright future,” my mother would advise me about sixty years ago, handing a set of new clothes. Very obediently, I would go to my grand mother, uncle and all elders in the family, and bow for their blessings. Today, the conversation with a birthday boy or girl would go something like:
Me: “Did your grandmother and uncle call you to wish you on birthday?”
Child: “No, you know. How bad. How sad. They did not call me.”
Me: “Then, did you call them up?”
Child: “If they don’t care to call me, why should I?”
Cultural values are changing fast!
Written : Badri Baldawa
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As I approached 68 (2013), my son, Anand insisted that I had proven enough in my 45-year long career and it was time I took life a little easier; enjoy traveling (that I love) and social life.
Yet, I somehow wanted to contribute positively and was exploring my options. My son-in-law, Navin suggested that I should write and share my experiences, “being a self-made man, you should tell the next generation how you overcame various obstacles to reach this position, in both, business and social circles.”
He pointed out that while I was sharing my experiences with family and friends, as they approached me, a blog had the potential to take your voice to many, many more. He also insisted that I start mentoring youngsters who were new in their businesses.
I was convinced. I offered my services pro bono, as part of a Guidance Program. Also, I started writing on this blog, bringing out figments from my memory as experiences that might be of value to the readers here. My daughter Meeta is sweet enough to spare her time to edit what I write.
As a youngster, I thought one meal a day, one set of school uniform a year, a public place to study, lack of finance and basic shelter would keep me from achieving my dreams. To compensate, I started giving 110% of what was normally expected. Yes, 110% even in bad deeds! This worked.
The very limitations started inspiring me in different phases of my life – meritorious results in studies; strength to shoulder family responsibilities; satisfied employers; establishing a successful business of my own; and in my adventure trips and other travel plans.
Having done what I wanted to, I agreed it was time for me to expose myself! I felt, through this blog, I could and should share my expereinces. Hopefully, readers would find some bits useful and if not, they’d enjoy reading.
Look forward to interact with you.
I agree. I think this is also one of the byproducts of the various factors like economic development, progress in education, independent thinking and the influence of Western Culture.
So true … the cultural values are rapidly changing and I personally feel partially we are to be blamed for the same.