My dad’s older brother called, “we have reference for a boy from a well-reputed family in Sangli-Madhavnagar. Bhageerathi’s horoscope matches his, 35 out of the maximum possible 36 aspects (gunas) match.” Bhageerathi was my most beloved younger sister.
The practice of matching horoscope, called ‘kundli milan’, before marriage has been a very integral part of a Hindu marriage.
For kundlis (horoscopes) to match, parents consult an astrologer to assess the zodiac compatibility even before the boy and girl meet each other. A match of atleast 26 aspects/points is considered essential. It is believed, that this matching indicates how well the couple would get along together. Obviously therefore, higher the match count, better and longer are prospects of their happy lives together.
We were all very happy to have found a boy to match 35 out of 36 counts for Bhageerathi. Shortly thereafter, in 1963, they were married. About 2-3 years into the marriage, they were blessed with a daughter. The year after, Bhageerathi passed away in an accident.
This raises a question. Can the tradition of matching horoscopes be trusted?
Sure, in Hindu families reading horoscopes and making decisions based on the radings is a respected and accepted practice. However, the accuracy of the reading depends on exact time of birth. For any reason, if the time of birth is not accurately recorded, the entire horoscope could be incorrect. Further, it is after all an individual who interprets the horoscope. The reading depends on the depth of knowledge of the person preparing and interpreting it.
Certainly something had gone wrong in matching Bhageerathi’s horoscope. Otherwise would she not be able to enjoy a long, married life after a match count of 35 out of 36?
There were instances where a boy and a girl liked and loved each other immensely. When they were to get married, their horoscopes did not match and they were forced to forget each other. There were cases where priority was given to horoscope compatibility rather than personalities. Isn’t it unfair?
Should we deprive those who love each other just because of horoscope readings? Should this tradition be encouraged? Certainly not…………I feel.
Written : Badri Baldawa
Edited : Meeta Kabra